Friday, May 24, 2013

New Names

I grew up as a Rebekah in a Rebecca world. I spent the first twenty years of my life saying things like "My name is Rebekah. That's R-e-b-e-k-a-h. No...k-a-h. One b....then a k-a-h. Yeah it's from the Bible."

Not until college did I meet other Rebekahs...and now I honestly know of more who spell it the same way I do than those who spell it the traditional way.

Along the way, I got lazy with that first syllable and just became a Bekah...a decision cemented when I hired in at WBCL and chose to be known as Bekah on the air. It flowed better, I thought...and it felt like a fresh beginning after eleven years of insisting that students and parents call me Rebekah.

Being Rebekah also held with it a host of memories, both good and bad, but there were many things about that half of my life that cried out in need of redemption. A new start.

One of the greatest blessings of getting married was the opportunity to take Ryan's last name. Well, the process of taking his last name wasn't a blessing. That was an opportunity to test my Christian spirit to its core. But I loved the chance for a fresh start - to be a Shaffer. To know that when people think of me - that's the name they think of, and they associate me with the man God sent to be my redemption.

I was born into this world as Rebekah Freelan - and I'm proud of that heritage. But even as I stare at that name on this screen, it represents to me all those years of searching...and wondering...and becoming. And one day, God sent redemption and with it, a new name. I now stare at the name Bekah Shaffer. She's a new creation...a product of His redemption.

That's why, when I got this birthday present this week, I nearly cried. {Actually I did cry when it settled in over me.}


My new initials. RJS. A testimony of who I was, who I am, and who God has for me to be.

And do you see the words around it?

Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart.

My desire - wrapped up in a Godly man and a new name.

8 comments:

Sarah said...

love this post...

Bekah said...

Thanks Sarah!! :) HAPPY WEEKEND TO YOU!!

efulton12 said...

It honestly didn't hit me until a couple of years ago that it truly is a privilege for a man to share his name with his wife. His name is such a huge part of his identity, and for him to want to share that with someone and be that closely associated with her is a big deal! I don't judge any woman that chooses to keep her own name, but for me personally I can't wait to be honored in that way!

Mark Allman said...

All kinds of things are tied up in names.... good and bad... Our family.. we are the Allman's:Mark, Dreama, Jessi, Levi and Esther and I know when people speak of us I hope positive things come to mind; that they know we seek God; that we are loyal good friends; that they can call day or night; and I hope they feel love and honored by us.
The Shaffer's are building for themselves a great heritage.

Delta Vines said...

Bekah, I know you love Ryan and he loves you very much. However, I have a question that others may or may not have. You know sometimes different parts of the US use the same word(s) for different meanings. SO (deep breath), when you say G-d sent Ryan to be your redemption...you aren't saying Ryan is the Messiah, etc., right?

I know Ryan will agree with what I am about to say... (right Ryan? smile) You, Bekah, have ALWAYS have worth. Always. Really. You may not have felt it until you felt someone else found you "worthy" enough to marry you - but you've always been worthy just in being who you are. If had not already been a fantastic, beautiful, caring, compassion, loving woman who adores her Savior, then Ryan would not have fallen in love with you! (Nor you with him, for that matter). The reason I say this is in several posts you thank G-d for making you (for lack of a better term) "good enough" for Ryan to love you. I do believe Ryan's love for you is unconditional. You don't have to be or act or anything else any way other than being you. Fat or thin, tall or short, red hair or blonde...you are wonderful just as you are. (Jump on in here Ryan any time! smile). I just wanted to reinforce to you, "Chewie" how loved you are by so many people who know you! And definitely loved beyond measure by our Heavenly Father! HUGS!

Phats said...

What a great bday gift!! You found a good guy and I am glad to have another guy at game nights haha.

I get exactly what you're saying about names, and I think the name Bekah Shaffer is a great fit for you ;)

Bekah said...

Erica - That's exactly how I feel. It's a privilege to become his...and I'm excited to have the opportunity to be an "out loud" Shaffer by changing my name. And I never want to change it again. Maybe that's why the SSA makes it such a pain!

Mark - Yes...you said that very well! And that's my hope as well for our legacy.

Delta - Hope you would know me well enough to know that I do not think Ryan is the Messiah! When I say he's my redemption, I mean he's the answer God sent to redeem what was broken and unfulfilled in my life after the desert and loss I experienced earlier. It's more like the concept of Ruth and Boaz and the kinsman-redeemer. That make more sense?

Phats - Thanks. And I'm so glad you've welcomed him in to our game night fun!

Natasha said...

I love reading your posts about you and Ryan. As someone who was older when I got married, I also am so thrilled to see how my journey has ended up. And how the deepest desires of my hearts have come true. Ironically, I wanted to keep my name, in part, because I wanted it to be associated with a person who had thrived in her single years (of waiting and hoping and praying) as well as in her married years. I do understand through, why having a completely new name has a different meaning for you.