Twenty-four days remain until I become Mrs. Ryan Shaffer...and I adore writing that.
Most days I still can't believe that this is my life...that he's chosen me and that very soon the wedding I attend will be my own. How is this possible? I'm waiting for the moment to hit when I fully absorb that I'm the bride this time.
But this I can tell you. There are so many things I look forward to about the post-wedding life. Things I have longed to enjoy for many years, though some of them might seem silly when I type them outright. Even so, I fully intend to enjoy every moment of these things.
* Morning coffee. Ryan and I are both avid coffee drinkers and I'm excited to find our own version of morning coffee. Reminds me of my grandparents (who lived out their marriage in this very house) and their daily ritual of morning coffee and devotions.
* Being a car passenger on a snowy day. I hate driving. Well, I mean, I don't mind it entirely but when given an option, I'd ALWAYS rather be the passenger. I can't imagine the joy of being in the car on a snowy day - and NOT being the one to drive.
* Someone to pray with. Of course I can pray by myself but there is something so lovely about sharing that with someone else.
* Cooking dinner for Ryan. How many times have I longed to have someone here to cook for? To plan for? To shop with? Now he's here and I can't wait to fulfill that dream and desire.
* Decorating the Christmas tree together. When you put up seven trees, you need help. (In a variety of ways.) But I"m not just looking for a helper. I"m looking for someone to SHARE with. And I found him!)
* NOT walking into family gatherings alone. In fact, I'm ready to not walk into ANYTHING alone anymore. Family gatherings, church, weddings, you name it.
* Someone to plan for. My day planner has scribbles of all sorts of dates I want to plan and execute just to make him smile. I love having someone to plan for!
* Not falling asleep by myself. And while we're at it - not waking up by myself.
* Someone to laugh with - and believe me - we do a LOT of that already!
* Weekend road trips!! Taking off for something fun - and having Ryan by my side!!
* A new last name! I'm updating the post to include this one because I'm SO excited about it. So excited to be a Shaffer. (And not just because making a cursive S is more fun than a cursive F.)
I love it.
Let's do THAT.
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OK - So very weird. Until this post, I had no idea what your married name would be. Last night, I had a dream that I had to make up a pseudonym for someone, and chose Rebecca Shaeffer (I know it's not spelled the same). Then I stopped myself and changed it again because of the real Rebecca Shaeffer. Okay, so maybe it's not that weird, but it sure seemed that way to me when I first read that!
oh my WORD! That is hilarious! (And very strange in a good way!) I didn't know if I'd ever said his last name on here before. SHAFFER!!! :) I like making a cursive S so much more than a cursive F. And I'm so excited to change my name. SO excited, in fact, that I'm updating the post to include that. :)
I understand completely about how exciting it is to not go to family events as a single person. After college (and still single), I attended a close friend's wedding. I mainly knew the people in the wedding and not as many people attending. So I ended up sitting with a young couple I didn't know at the reception. The guy asked me all kinds of questions about attending the wedding without a date and just made me feel so awkward.
And a little later, I attended a missionary training because I was preparing for my time in Ukraine. This other couple that were just married were there. The guy also made me feel really uncomfortable and kept asking questions about going into missions as a single person. Luckily there were a few other singles going places, so I wasn't completely off by myself. Leave it to guys to make some feel completely uncomfortable!
But it has been so nice the last couple of years having someone to go to these things.
Is that you, Stephanie? I HATE going to weddings alone. In fact, I don't. If I don't know somoene to sit with, I won't go. It's so uncomfortable! I am glad you have someone now to go with! WHat a great feeling! :)
My first boyfriend had the last name Bailey, which meant I spent many a free minute my junior year writing out Whitney Bailey in every script possible. I just thought it was the most fun name to write in cursive. Big loopy B, followed by loop after loop, after loop. I'm sure I had pages of it. After we broke up, I felt kind of silly about the whole thing, and never really did it with the next boyfriend. Then, several years later when I discovered I really would be a Bailey, one of my first thoughts was, "At least all that practice didn't go to waste!"
LOL!!!!! That's hilarious!! It was the longest time before I dared to scribble out Bekah Shaffer - and in truth, I think I typed it on one of the work screens before I wrote it out in junior high fashion. :) Still wonder how many times I'll mess it up on the air before I get it right!
Too funny, I love going to weddings alone because I can mix and mingle however I want.
I think one thing you can look forward to is coming home after a tough/long/less than perfect day at work and having someone that instantly brings you to a better place :)
Loved this list, Bekah. As a married woman who sometimes wants a moment to herself, I needed this reminder to be grateful for a companion. The single life isn't easy, and I'm so glad you've found your lifelong best friend. (Bekah Shaffer has a very nice ring to it too. :))
Whitney, are you talking about the actress Rebecca Schaffer or do you know someone else by that name? Because that actress thing has kind of creeped me out.
The thing I missed when my now-ex and I split up (and he was raking me over the coals at the time) was having someone who would notice if I didn't come home or if I injured myself, and he would call 911. I suddenly felt so unsafe on my own.
You may not realize it yet, but there will come a time when you'll absolutely love knowing Ryan is there to notice - and to CARE - if anything happened to you.
you forget your first game night as a married woman haha
Emily - AMEN to coming home after a tough day...Braeya isn't the most sympathetic in the world. It will be good to have someone to care!!
Sarah - Doesn't it though? I can't wait to use it on air!
Lori - I didn't even know there WAS an actress by that name.
Skye - YES. Amen to that.
Phats - How did I miss that?? It will be fun!
Lori - Yes. I was talking about the actress. Bekah - If you don't know who she is, DON'T look her up.
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