I watched the Bachelor after-show last night and by the end, I was yelling at the TV and beating the air with my fists. I just don't get it.
Here's my take on it, which could be totally off base. I still need to believe that he went into it with honorable intentions and that he did not do it just to get publicity and become a 15 minutes of fame star. I also still need to believe that he really did like (though I'll concede to no love) both Jenni and DeAnna. HOWEVER - I think pretty much everything else he said was an excuse. I think he wants to believe he WASN'T offering excuses, but he still did.
Before I get into what I thought about his speech, let me just say that my opinion of Jenni went up about 50 points for her behavior last night. I liked her before - it wasn't that I didn't. It was just that she seemed kind of giggly all the time. But the fact that she seemed genuinely hurt for DeAnna meant a lot to me. And the fact that when she offered Brad the hypothetical situation of dating just one of them - she offered up dating DeAnna - that was classy. And her dress was cute - but WAY short. When she reached up to hug him, I got a little worried there for a minute.
Now to poor DeAnna. I thought she handled the situation with a whole lot more grace than I would have. I appreciated that she did not hide her anger, because I thought it was more than justified. I felt sorry for her because you could tell they still had that chemistry and they both knew each other well enough to have this totally personal argument in front of so many...and still he let her walk away. I hope she sticks to her statement of that being his last chance.
Brad, Brad, Brad. You lost two really great girls - and one that might have been absolutely perfect for you. YOU ASKED FOR HER DAD TO BE FLOWN TO THE SHOW - HELLO!!!! YOU DO LIKE HER! She doesn't deserve better than you. She deserves a chance to see what she could have WITH you - and you deserve the same with her.
I could NOT believe what he said to DeAnna at the end about how she'd never know how much he would miss her.
So that is my take. Just a hearty "Good Grief."
Nice save on the part of the show for bringing back Ryan, Trista, and cute baby Max to save the day.
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Ummm....isn't this just a television show?
:) Good grief! :):)
Um....yes? ;)
Chris,
Um, yes, it's a TV show. But it's real people (albeit in a contrived situation) who had hearts broken.
Bekah,
I'm with you about Jenni and Deanna. Oh, and what a wonderful tribute to Jenni's terrific grandma! I really loved that.
Brad is looking for perfection. He made some comment that I can't quite remember, about the idealized emotion he's hoping to feel, and he can't see anything less as "love." It's really sad, because he's going to keep pushing women away over one imperfection (in her or in him) or another for the rest of his life. He is to be pitied.
Chris - just to further clarify - yeah it's a show, but that's how pathetic I am! LOL - oh well.
Skyepuppy - I completely forgot to mention that tribute to the Grandma. That was very beautiful.
YOu're right - I dont' want to say he needs to lower his standards, because I don't think that is really the issue. But he needs to let people be PEOPLE and have their flaws - and let HIMSELF have flaws that other people will need to learn to deal with. Sometimes I couldn't tell if he was more afraid of the flaws in the women or the women seeing the flaws in him.
My friend Kari mentioned his Mom's comment that with him - ther'es no gray area. I guess this was a perfect example of that. You can't explore a relationship. You're either in love, or you're broken up.
I just came by to say HAPPY THANKSGIVING :)
Oh yeah I played Dutch Blitz tonight!! I am practicing better be ready
Happy Thanksgiving, Bekah!
Although it's real people, I have a hard time believing that it's not "rigged" somehow or scripted. They definitely cut down a ton of video just to make the show happen.
This is why I just don't get it.
Bekah - its really okay...I was mostly kidding anyway ;) Please don't take offense. :) We will be seeing you soon.
Chris
Oh I didn't take offense at all. I am just not used to two word responses, so after I re-read mine, I thought WOW that sounded harsh. (Imagine that...me...overanalyzing....)
Can't wait to see you guys!!!
I've thought long and hard about Bachelor Brad and his logic, and I just wanted to say that I found him refreshing.
He didn't feel right proposing to one girl when he had feelings for 2girls. I wish there were more guys out there like him, but the rest would rather just do what is expected of them, like propose to someone they have no real intention of marrying, all for the sake of a TV show.
Say what you want about him, but if you knew that a guy had feelings for you AND another girl, you certainly would not want him to propose to you until he had reconciled those feelings.
I'm with you (sort of). The thing I found most refreshing was also the thing that frustrated me the most. I totally agree that if you have such strong feelings for two people, you probably shouldn't be proposing. (Not that I'm a relationship expert.) But I still say...can't you just at least ask one for a date? Coffee? Something?
So I'm a little behind leaving you a comment...but good grief is right. I totally agree with you! I still really like Brad but it sure seems like he's looking for perfection and that just isn't going to happen. He should have given one of them a try. Kudos to Jenni for being so classy and caring about DeAnna so much. I think that was very sweet of her. And Kudos to DeAnna for being angry as she has every right to be. Brad lost two great girls. I don't think a proposal would have been appropriate if he had feelings for both girls, however, it sure seems that simply dating one of them after the show wouldn't have done any harm just to see how their relationship would have been in the real world. I certainly didn't see any of this coming!
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