Thursday, July 02, 2015

Unique to You

A couple of days ago, when I wrote about my first day post-full-time-job, you all had SO MUCH to say about this new season of my life. I don't remember the last time I've enjoyed reading comments so much! {Well, to be fair, I do enjoy reading a good comment thread on Facebook when it just goes crazy over something ridiculous, but this was an entirely different kind of enjoyment. This was productive.}

It seemed like many of you have a passion to stay home/work from home yourselves, and I think that's great! And I know many of you have a passion to work outside the home too...and I think that is great as well.

I wanted to tell you about something my friend Polly said in response. Polly comments here all the time, so you've probably read her encouraging words before, but I met her through my job at the station. She's a listener and came to meet me once at a Sticker Stop. We've been blogging/texting friends ever since and my life is richer because she speaks joy into it MANY times every week.

After she read my post, she sent me this text:

 I just heard an amazing message by Andy Stanley, and he said, "Why would you trade what is unique to you for something someone else can do?" Amen! Why trade time and energy for a job lots of people can do, even though you were great at your radio job, for the ONE job you and only you can do - be Ryan's wife and best friend.

I share this with you today not because I want to start a debate between working and staying home {because I so do NOT want to start a debate} - but because I want to remind all of us, myself included, of the absolute stunning BEAUTY in the great diversity of passions and causes that the Lord has placed on our hearts.

Sort of feels like to me that with the advent of the world wide web and social media, we suddenly have this intense pressure placed upon us to love every single cause in the world. And by love, of course, I mean devote our lives completely to each thing.

In the years I worked in radio, Lynne and I interviewed dozens of people who were crazy devoted to a passion the Lord gave them. I interviewed a mom who created a line of nut butters to help adopted kids adjust to a diet that wasn't largely orphanage porridge. I interviewed a lady who organizes underwear drives so kids in the ER or a women's shelter can have clean underwear and not be embarrassed at what they don't have. I interviewed a mom who created a planner system for homeschooling moms so they could be effective teachers without feeling overwhelmed. I interviewed a young mom from my own stomping grounds, who created a ministry to send bracelets to moms who had lost their babies - because she knew their pain and wanted to give them something tangible to hold a memory of what they'd lost. Lynne interviewed a gentleman who rescued retired racehorses and gave them a new career in helping veterans with PTSD go through some therapy. She also interviewed a young man who works with an organization that takes junked cars and uses them to help at-risk teens learn practical life skills in rehabbing them and selling them.

I loved hearing their stories.

And I loved it that at the end of each interview, we'd connected one person's passion with thousands of listeners, and maybe a handful of those listeners would connect with the story in such a way that they'd also want to help. They'd want to become part of that ministry or that vision.

But I also loved it that we all didn't have to take on every single cause. Out of that whole list I gave you...my heart beats faster for only one of those causes. Not that the others are not worthy or wonderful. They all are. But the Lord has given me a tender heart toward one in particular.

And that is the beauty of the Body of Christ and the heartbeat of people working together. We can all be passionate toward different things, and when we each devote ourselves to those things the Lord has pushed us to invest in, we'll find the needs of the hurting around us being met in the most beautiful rhythm.

The fact that I'm able to be away from a standard work day right now means that I have the chance to pursue some of those passions I might otherwise not have time for. It doesn't mean I have to invest in everything in front of me.

I don't know what your passion might be. But I urge you to think about what is unique to you...the passion God has put on your heart. Do that. You don't have to do it all. But do what He calls you to do, and do it with all your heart.



11 comments:

Tamar SB said...

Loved this!

Bekah said...

Thanks!!! ;)

Shari said...

True words of wisdom! Thanks for the reminder for such a time as this (for me as well as others, I'm sure!)

Unknown said...

I absolutely LOVE this and definitely needed to hear it. I often feel guilty when I don't say yes to every worthy need I encounter. I have these feelings of "if I don't do it, no one will" and then I am so stretched thin doing too many things that none of them are done well. Last year, I made myself say no to something really big in order to say yes to something that seemed very small. And I'm so thankful that I did because the small thing was so much more important to my family than the big thing that would have gotten others approval and praise. And although I've made progress, I still have a long way to go in focusing only on the specific things God has called me to do!!! That quote that Polly passed along and her words of wisdom that accompanied it...so so good!!! And thank you, Bekah, for your insight into this very important topic! I'm so thankful for your blog!

Anonymous said...

Amen! That's all. Just give each other grace and space to be and do what God has placed on our own heart with our own personal gifted-ness. I lived too long under the guilt of what I thought I should do (must-erbation)... breastfeed, be a stay-at-home mom full-time, sing solos in church whenever I was asked... yadda yadda yadda...until I found the freedom to say "no" to good things in order to say "yes" to the best things for me and my family. Would love some do-overs but don't have that luxery in this world. So... I can just do-forward from the lessons learned and trust God's grace to cover what is behind that I can't change.

Christina said...

Very true words, Mrs. S.! I think the debate between women about working out of the home and staying at home is so sad. Why can't we just support one another? I've stayed at home for about 14 years now, but I'm about to start a new chapter of my life....hopefully still from home, but working full-time. God knew (even when I didn't) that I needed to be a stay at home mom for my kids. Emily needed me more than I could have ever imagined (and still does!) and I wouldn't trade the opportunity to be at home full time with my kids for anything, but I'm also excited about the opportunity to work and help finance their schooling and hopefully use some of my medical experiences as a patient to be able to help some else.

God calls us to different purposes at different times and they are all important. I'm so excited to see what you will do with this new season of your life. You're gonna love it!!

Anonymous said...

aww aww aww! I was like whoah hey that's me! haha
obviously I loved this and so appreciate you writing about it and being such a sweetie EVERY STINKIN DAY on here. I love it.

have a great weekend!!
XOXO

Bekah said...

Shari - You are so welcome. A lot of this thinking is based off the Susie Larson book I've been reading - you would love it.

Tia - You made me smile! Thanks for your comment! I am so used to saying yes, that I notice I do it without even THINKING. I said yes to something recently and as the word was coming out of my mouth, I was thinking "ummmmm you did not even stop to PONDER that, sister!!" It's a whole mental transition. I'm definitely not there yet. I'm reviewing Susie's book on this Saturday's post. I really think you would love {and benefit from} that book!

Anonymous - I love the phrase "do forward." Lots of importance in that. There's another spot where we fall down too much, right? Mourning the do-overs we can't have...and not searching for the do-forwards.

Christina - When I first read your comment, I was like "Who is Mrs. S?" OH!! THAT'S ME!! I am so proud of you for taking LITERALLY the most painful season of your life and turning it into something that can be used to help others and help your family! You're an encouragement and inspiration to me! Also...was thinking of you this afternoon because I was out with my mom and sister and we drove past your in-laws' house! Missin you!

Polly - yeah it's you!!! :) I appreciate YOU!

Anonymous said...

Bekah, you have hit upon an important truth--you could no more be me than I could be you! And I could never be you, I need to be me. Yet each of us needs to be the woman God calls us to be. Lovely, lovely, lovely truth. And how thankful I am that each of us is given a task, a gift, a challenge by God uniquely fitted to us. Blessings dear one, Lois

Bekah said...

Lois - You speak truth! Thank you for helping me to become me...but not trying to make me become anyone else! :) Love you!

Natasha said...

I love this post Bekah. So much to think about... What is unique to ME?