Friday, January 25, 2013

Belonging


Okay people. I know that what you’re about to read is in no way Kingdom-altering. I know that it’s also probably worthy of an eyeroll. 

But.

This is my blog so we’re gonna talk about it anyway and if you want to roll your eyes, you go right ahead. Just turn your head a little, please, so I don’t see.

Our station is located on a former college campus, so we have multiple parking lots and a small grouping of other buildings around us that house a variety of other businesses and ministries. 

Last week, the building right next to ours got some new tenants, and with that change…came changes to the parking lot. New spaces for everyone!

And by that, I mean…

…my previously self-assigned parking spot will very soon have an official sign up declaring it to belong to someone else I work with. My little Bekah-mobile has now been relegated to an entirely different lot…one farther away that requires I actually leave home earlier to have time for my walking commute at the end of my driving commute. {It’s not THAT much farther…but enough.}

My co-workers have issued some {deserved} good-natured ribbing to me about the way in which my universe is altered when I have to change my parking place.


It’s just a parking place…they say. 

I understand that. But I also understand that I’m a girl of routine. I like things to follow an order. And that includes the parking lot. 

It’s not just for work. It’s something I do everywhere I shop…at church…when I visit my parents’ house {yes, I’ve designated a space in the driveway as mine}…and frankly I like it that way.

And yes. I also like to sit in the same pew at church, the same chair in the conference room, and perhaps even the same table at restaurants.

Call it a matter of OCD if you will, and it probably is…but in my heart it really feels more like a matter of belonging. I love going to work and finding my little spot empty and ready to welcome my car. I spend a lot of hours at that place. It’s a second home. And I like to belong there – not just at my desk, but in the parking lot too. And when someone parks in my space, it doesn’t make me upset because I think I own the spot. It just feels like…someone didn’t stop to notice that this is my little car’s home. This is where it belongs.

That’s the reason I won’t park in everyone else’s regular spots when they’re on vacation. Seeing the empty spot and reserving it as theirs makes me aware that they’re missing…and that the day isn’t quite the same without them.

Anyone else have a “belonging spot?” {OCD person’s code for self-assigned parking place.}

9 comments:

Shawn said...

Yep got my spot. Nearly empty parking lot when I come to work. I go down the side of parking lot past the center cross driveway, make a big U turn and come down middle isle to park in last spot before the cross drive way. I straddle the line just a little to avoid a door ding. Plenty of closer spots but I like that one. And yes when someone parks in it on overtime or if I have a meeting on my day off I get a little confused on where to park. Oh and yes I have a spot at mom and dads too. But church is to big and busy to have a spot. But I always park in the back of the lot. Once again trying to avoid door dings. I have issues with door dings. I understand accidents, but some people aren't as particular with their vehicles. I see it as respect for others belongings. Soapbox complete. Oh and don't worry your car will love it's new spot. Just like it will love it's new garage one day. Just name your spot and introduce them. They will be great friends.

Bekah said...

You and Ryan and the door dings! I went to Meijer last night and parked in my "Ryan spot" which is out in the middle of nowhere...as opposed to "my spot" which is a lot closer to the door. Depends on whose car I have! :) I'm glad you understand though. Makes me feel better to have company in my boat.

Anonymous said...

Seeing this post makes me think...that's so Bekah; oh, wait, it IS you Bekah! Well, since I'm the one who sits in your self assigned seat just to see how it's handled, guess my "spot" moves. It's not right, it's just me. But, I do have a suggestion for perspective on the parking spot change--it will be an additional bit of workout that you will be doing on a daily basis both to and from the office. Silver lining for this little gray cloud.
Big smile on my face, Lois

Anonymous said...

whoever shawn is... loved that!!! and yes, Ryan and Dan are in the same boat with the door dings. If we go to the grocery, i park as close as humanly possible to the store, and D parks as faaaaar away as humanly possible to avoid a door ding. who door dings, anyway? I suppose i am not picky about my car, but still. so crazy. and i love my husband because i am totally OCD and don't even mind. :)

Bekah, do you leave the house with your bed unmade ever? I have before, rarely and i about kills me. :)

off to bake chocolate chips cookies with my coffee loving, chocolate loving, Essie nail polish loving daughter!!! :)
XOXO
Polly

Bekah said...

Lois - always looking to move my cheese aren't you? And I'm glad you push me that way! :) and now - GET OUT OF MY SEAT! LOl just kidding! Love you much!!

Polly - Shawn and Ryan are two peas in a parking lot pod! (And they're friends in real life.)

I do not leave the house iwth the bed unmade. I do come HOME to an unmade bed though. We will not mention names, Braeya Jo.

I'm so jealous about the cookies....and I did my nails today. Essie mochacino, thankyouverymuch!

Lori said...

When we go to church, we park in our old driveway, in front of our garage slab and nonexistent house. And Cassie parks right next to us!

Jenna said...

I love your sister's comment. :)

I so rarely go anywhere these days, I have no idea what you're talking about. :) But I get the part about someone else not stopping to notice. It makes you feel insignificant! But, I'm afraid those of us with some OCD tendencies (ahem, some of us more than others!) notice more details in general, so therefore are more susceptible to getting our feelings hurt when someone else DOESN'T notice. Like, HOW COULD YOU NOT SEE THAT?? IT WAS SO OBVIOUS! When most normal, non-OCD people mean well and just don't pick up on those things that the rest of us might. I may have learned a thing or two after 9 years of marriage to a person who doesn't notice when his son is eating the mail right in front of him...but I love him. :)

Bekah said...

Lori - We could be sisters!! :)

Jenna - I admit the eating mail part made me giggle RIGHT OUT LOUD. Hope it wasn't a bill. (or maybe I hope it WAS?)

I"m so glad you get me. :)

Jenna said...

He has eaten bills before. He eats anything he SHOULDN'T eat, but try to give him baby cereal and he clams right up. His favorites are paper, shoelaces, and cardboard boxes. Oh, and stickers. I've found more than one sticker in his diaper. It sounds like I don't watch him, but I do. He's a quick one, and a tall one for his age, so you never think he's going to be able to reach something...then, bam! In his mouth. I hope he outgrows this.