Yesterday we celebrated 105 months of marriage!
We've given a marriage talk a few times (Valentine's Banquets, wedding showers, etc.) in which we've shared the difference between a difficult marriage and difficult days. Before we were married, we had a lot of people tell us how hard marriage could be. But we've learned that for us, anyway, marriage hasn't been hard. Life has been hard sometimes. We've worked consciously at not mixing up the two.
This last month has been a hard life month. Ryan's been healing from that severe ankle sprain, work has had multiple extra challenges, Ryan's still working through estate stuff, and of course, the world in general seems to get harder every day.
But I can say without any reservation that this 105th month of marriage has been as sweet as the rest. As we've navigated things like hosting Jeremiah for 4 days, welcoming Phoebe for a bit, bringing a new tenant into the mix, prepping for another new tenant, and pulling long, long work days, shouldering the load with Ryan has been sweet.
He has listened well when my heart has been overwhelmed. He has picked up extra work when I need a moment to rest and collect myself. I've picked up extra work when he was still trying to heal from his injury. We've had long talks. We've taken specific, active steps to make investments in our mental and physical health so work stresses don't overcome us.
I am so grateful for him. I am so grateful for life we share and the work we do together.
Yesterday we were on duty alone, so our ability to get away was minimal, but we were able to pause to breathe a bit after a couple of particularly extra-long days. That was pretty wonderful!
I made cauliflower nachos for lunch, and they were delish!
Thank you for being present and invested for each of the 105 months, but especially this last one!
3 comments:
Glad you're able to find balance. Those nachos look great! I might need to try that! Tortilla chips can get mushy anyway, so why not start with something that's already a little soft?
I think you have a great outlook on marriage and it is so true. I always cringe when people say that being married is so hard. It really doesn’t have to be, but life definitely is. Keeping the two straight makes all the difference.
So important to make that differentiation. You two are such examples to others!
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