Wednesday, May 07, 2025

A Day in Defiance

 


This past Saturday, I traveled to Ohio to speak at a women’s brunch at a church. It was a bit of an unusual day for me in the speaking world, because Ryan ended up not being able to go.

                We had planned for him to accompany with me as he always does, but he ended up with a work appointment and couldn’t be in two places at once.

                Because he wasn’t with me to help, my photo documentation from the day was…lackluster…but I still want to tell you about the day, because it was so sweet.

                The drive over and back was blissfully uneventful, despite the rain. I found the church without incident, carried in my bags, and had the most wonderful time sitting to chat with their planning committee.

                The church was small, but everyone was so sweet, and I felt like I made new friends throughout the day. (There were many dog mamas, so we bonded over stories and pictures of our babies.)

                They had a delicious lunch of chicken salad croissants, pasta salad, fruit cups, and homemade cupcakes. 





                After lunch, they played some games, including the purse game. Have you played that one before? They named a variety of items that you might have in your purse, and the woman who had the most items on the list won. Despite my fondness for Mary Poppins purses full of all sorts of things, I solidly lost that game. I only had ONE thing on the list.

                A couple of ladies in the church did a skit that was really funny, and then I shared about simplifying life.

                After the conference ended, I stayed to talk with the ladies and then packed up to head home.

                I had every intention of planting flowers and my garden upon my return home, but alas, it was cold, windy, and rainy, so instead, I went to visit my parents for a while and then crashed hard on the couch.

                Thank you, ladies of Defiance, for your kindness, warm welcome, and sweet friendship!

Tuesday, May 06, 2025

149 Months of Love

 


Last Friday was our 149th monthiversary! (I’m suddenly very aware that we need to step it up next month for 150! Too bad it falls on a Monday.)

                Ryan and I were both surprised that Friday turned out to be a pretty day, with both warmth and sunshine colliding over our home. We skipped our recent tradition of a Friday lunch date at his office because he took off a little early to spend some time with me in the afternoon!

                It was so nice outside that Lexi and I went to sit on the glider and wait for Ryan to arrive home. She was thrilled for porch time!

                When Ryan came home, we hopped in the truck and went to the Amish greenhouse where we’ve been buying our flowers and garden plants the last couple of years. 

                We normally go on a Saturday morning – with the rest of the county – but since we were there when most people were still at work, it was fairly quiet. I thoroughly enjoyed meandering through the flowers and appreciating their beauty…while also sifting through my lists and trying to craft planters in my head.






                We made our purchases, came home for dinner, and then enjoyed a walk around the lake with Lexi! (We saw a snake. I did not pass out. This is notable.)

                I knew I didn’t have enough energy or daylight left to plant everything that night, plus I needed to spend some time preparing to speak the next day, so the plants stayed in their little holders. They’re actually still there, because it’s rained every single day since.

                It was a fun and different sort of date, and I count it a win! Love you, Ryan! Thank you for 149 beautiful months together!

Monday, May 05, 2025

Ministry Licensing

 


Good morning, friends! I have some stories for you this week, and the first one I want to tell you is from a week ago Sunday.

                Different churches/denominations have different procedures for those who serve in ministry, and since being hired on our church staff last December, I have been working diligently to make my way through the steps of what our denomination requires.

                I’ve mentioned pieces of it along the way, but the short version is that I had a series of meetings with our district minister, with a cohort of people working with me specifically, and with a credentialing committee. I answered questions, I shared my testimony, I wrote long answers to essay prompts…and do you want to know something? I really enjoyed every little step of it. I truly did. I took it seriously, recognized the weight of it all, and tried to absorb every piece.

                After all the meetings and questions and interviews and essays, our district minister traveled to our church to do a special ceremony within our worship service that signified I was licensed for ministry within our church.

                There were so many things about the day that were meaningful to me. Ryan was on worship team that morning, and I loved it that he was able to sing on this day that was special to my heart.

                Pastor Jonathan shared with our church about the journey I had been on, and then he turned it over to Laura, who is our district minister.

                Laura said some very sweet things that were completely humbling to hear – and a gift to my heart. Then she read some vows to me which I committed to honoring as I serve.



                After that, she invited the congregation to come forward and pray over me. We do this often in our church as we commission people for ministry (short or long term), so I knew what it would look like, but as I saw the people come forward…my goodness, was it hard to not just fall apart crying. And from where I stood, I couldn’t even fully see everyone. When I watched the service back later online, this was overwhelming. I took a screen shot that I will be framing and putting in my office.


                Laura prayed over me and then so did my dear friend Julie and my sweet Ryan. I soaked up every word they said.

                I love this picture of Ryan hugging me after the prayer time.

                I said a brief word of thanks to the congregation and enjoyed the rest of our service.

                (A big thanks to my friend, Tenley, for taking pictures of the licensing for me!)

                After church, I grabbed some pictures with a few of the people…

                …Laura, our district minister. I have really appreciated her encouragement and advice along the way!

                …Jonathan and Julie. They’ve been friends, they’ve been encouragers, they’ve been mentors, they’ve been prayer warriors. I could not have made this journey without them.

                …my parents! They were able to be present, which was so meaningful to me.

                …my beloved Ryan. I could write for days about his support, love, prayers, and kindness as I have walked each step of this. Everybody on this earth needs a Ryan when walking into what God has asked.

                I am grateful for this day, for what it represented in my heart, and for the people who surrounded me.


Sunday, May 04, 2025

Sunday Snapshots: Memorable Moments from the Week

 


Like I said yesterday, it’s been a busy week around here, with a handful of memorable events all falling into seven days! We had some plot twists in the mix, and my journal may have gotten a workout, but I am thankful for the good and sweet moments that found their way into the past few days. Want to see some highlights?

Last Sunday was a very, very special day for me, and I haven’t had a chance to tell you all about it yet. (I will this week.) I was licensed in ministry during our church service, and that will always be a sweet and meaningful moment for me. I am so thankful for our church leadership, our congregation, and my family who made the day such a blessing for my heart.

On the one night we had free this week, we went on a grocery shopping date. Alas, we were so out of food that I couldn’t even scrape together a dinner for us before we left, so we chose to grab Subway and eat by the lake. A different lake than our lake. 😊 It was so windy, but it was nice out and we had the best time. We drove around the water a bit, did our grocery shopping, wandered through some plant stores, and then we came home. A sweet date night in the midst of a crazy week.

I cannot get over the cuteness of Lexi’s morning hugs when Ryan is about to leave for work. She hates goodbyes of any kind with anyone, and she’s taken to being extra snuggly with him before work. Adorable.

Had some great meetings with my fellow staff members at church this week. Pages of notes, great conversations, and I am just so profoundly grateful for this season of life and all I’m learning.

Our air conditioner is giving us some trouble (isn’t that a delight as we head into summer?) so the HVAC guy paid us a visit. Lexi has never wanted to apprentice more than she did that day. She was shaking, head to toe, trying to sit quietly and not invasively help him with everything he did. It was actually kind of hysterical.

Ryan and I celebrated 149 months of marriage this week, and we spent the evening shopping for flowers and plants for our garden. We arrived at the greenhouse before the crowds, so it was easy to maneuver and appreciate the beautiful flowers.

Yesterday I spoke at a women’s event at a church over in Ohio. At the last minute, Ryan wasn’t able to join me, which is extremely rare. We were both super sad about it, but the day was still sweet, and I even made new friends with some of the ladies in attendance.

                Come back this week for extra stories about some of these memories!

Saturday, May 03, 2025

Saturday Suggestions: Inspirations for Your Weekend

 


Good morning and happy Saturday, my friends! It has been a wildly, wildly busy week here in Shafferland, but I managed to grab a few links for you – and some of them are extra sweet, I think. Maybe I need to stop and spend some time on #1 myself!!!

We are all just a little too busy…I think we can agree on that! 😊 I loved this article from Magnolia (you know…Chip and Joanna) about living slowly. I think this was my favorite quote: “Creating margin is less about making cuts and more about deciding what’s written in pen on your calendar—unerasable and necessary for you to live a well-loved life.” Convicting! After a very, very busy April, and a May that already has much within the calendar squares, this might be a good quote for me to chew on.


 I loved reading this article about an old bakery in Grand Rapids that still operates the old-fashioned way. The amount of love and soul poured into goods baked by hand…yes please! When I made that apple slab pie last week, it took time, but it felt for a minute like I was making a great gift…and that was fun. (BONUS: If owning a bakery/café sounds fun – and also overwhelmingly awful, check out this idea for a home café. It’s apparently a thing on TikTok, but I’m not on TikTok, so I didn’t know it. I think it’s charming and lovely and sounds like SO MUCH FUN!)

Shortly before Ryan’s stepdad passed away, we had been helping him clean out the cabin. He hadn’t been ready to sort through Nita’s things until then, and it was quite the undertaking. As we cleaned out the attic, we found two brand new boxes of red dishes, which he suddenly wanted to keep, even though he didn’t know he owned them and didn’t want to use them. After he died, we were able to bring them home and have been using them as our everyday dishes for the last four years. Now that we are here at the lake and our color scheme is blue, rather than red, I’ve known that someday I want to swap the dishes for something that matches better. I’m not in a hurry, because what we have works just fine. But when I passed THESE beauties in Walmart last week, I confess my heart melted just a little. Aren’t they so pretty???

I love reading KariAnne Wood’s blog, and though she usually writes about design and décor, sometimes she writes about her family, and I love those posts, too. Her twin daughters are graduating from Baylor this spring and this week she posted the loveliest tribute to them, filled with some good life advice for all of us. Even if you’re past your college graduation days, I encourage you to read her thoughts! (BONUS: Speaking of KariAnne, she also wrote this post about her unpopular home décor opinions. I agreed with her on some and not so much on others. 1000% agree with her on overhead lighting, though!)

 Because Ryan and I are not from this area, we don’t automatically know all the things about all the homes and properties surrounding us. Also, we live in an area where family homes are still very much a thing, so it’s unusual for homesteads in our county to leave a family entirely. We hear stories now and then about our house and those who lived here before us. The one we hear the most about is the lady who lived here first and taught all kinds of music lessons. Most everyone (within an age range) seemed to take piano, organ, or guitar lessons in our house! We even named our boat after the lady who lived here so long! Anyway, the story lover in me finds home-history fascinating, which is probably why I loved this post!

And speaking of stories – I think this is SO COOL. Because of Ryan’s work at Swiss Village, I have talked to a lot of seniors, and they do have such interesting life stories to tell. You know I’m a fan of telling your story, regardless of your age, but I love this initiative to give seniors a platform for sharing their life stories and lessons – in a fun way!

                I’m taking my hints outside today!

                May has arrived, which makes it the perfect time to clean up your patio! Sweep away the bugs and dead leaves, hose down (or pressure wash) the porch, pull out/clean off the patio furniture, and replace anything that needs updated for spring!

                It’s also a great week to refill your bird feeders if you have any. We only have hummingbird feeders, and we are excited to put those back out on the little hooks!

Friday, May 02, 2025

Bekah's Bookshelf: My 2025 Reads So Far

 


The way the end of April lined up, I didn’t have a chance to sneak in my book update before the end of the month. So this is technically my April recap, even though it’s showing up a bit late.

                This first book I want to tell you about was one I finished at the tail end of March, but I had already shared my books for the month, so it had to be delayed. Be Our Guest was one of many books recommended to me by my friend, Jodi, as I was beginning my role at church. Jodi worked as a First Impressions Director at a megachurch, and by the time she left to work with another organization, part of her job entailed lots of training for the church staff – and for other organizations, too. She graciously and generously shared resources with me, and I purchased almost every book she recommended.

                Be Our Guest has been out for several years, so the stats in it are no longer accurate, but the advice still holds true. The book is published by the Disney Institute and speaks to the art of customer service.

                I remember when I worked in Financial Aid, part of our staff went to the Disney Institute for some training, and I still recall some of the specific things they shared with the rest of us when they returned. Though I have never been to Disney, and am unlikely to go, because I don’t love crowds, I know enough to know they work hard at making a top notch experience for their guests.

                The book outlined the importance of knowing what the goals of the organization are and then finding ways to implement them thoroughly.

                Obviously we’re a church and not a theme park, and not everything about working in hospitality within our church translates neatly to the goals of an entertainment-based organization, but I did underline several things that either applied accurately or could be used in a loose translation to help me understand those who might be walking in our doors for the first time.

                I didn’t love this book as much as the one I read a few months ago – written by the gentleman from the Ritz Carlton – but I did find some good nuggets that are worth remembering.  One I really liked was the ongoing reminder that everything speaks. While there might be details about an experience or a building that no one zooms in on and notices in particular, its presence or absence speaks in subtle ways that impacts people even if they don’t realize it. As a detail-oriented person, I both appreciated and was challenged by the reminder that it all matters!

                I also loved this quote from Walt Disney himself – “You can dream, create, design, and build the most wonderful place in the world…but it requires people to make the dream a reality. I’m a dreamer and creator, but what matters are the people I aim to encourage to do their part well!

                This book probably wouldn’t be your first choice if you are just reading for fun or pleasure, but if you are involved in customer service or hospitality in any aspect, you can find some good nuggets tucked in here from a place that has made it their business to know and improve upon this craft!

***

The second book I read this month was also a work-related find, but it was a total win in my opinion. Also a recommendation from my friend Jodi, this one is called The Come Back Effect, and it’s written collaboratively by Jason Young and Jonathan Malm.

The book focuses on hospitality and teaches churches how to rethink their hospitality approach so guests will want to return after a first visit.

I underlined so much in this book and have already made notes about how to implement what I’ve learned, starting with the lay leaders I lead within our church.

I appreciate the way the authors look at hospitality from all perspectives: planning ahead to do it well before anyone ever steps foot inside the church, being fully aware moment by moment to continue to do it well when people are present for services, correcting mistakes (immediately or later, when realized), and following up to go the extra mile, even after the fact.

From implementing good training to doing a good job of reading guests and anticipating their needs to always being on the lookout for ways to do better – this is what I hope to have at our church! For the record, I think our people do a great job of welcoming guests and making them feel at home, but I want that trend to continue, and if there are ways we can go further to do it even better, I’m in favor of that!

One thing the authors pointed out that I found fascinating (and true) was this: “Over the years, our expectations for customer service have dropped. In fact, even when we get mediocre customer service, we often celebrate it by writing on a comment card. We’ve become so accustomed to bad service, ‘just okay’ is often an improvement over the norm.”

YES! I hadn’t thought about it, but it’s true, and that just makes me sad. May we do a better job than just okay!

I’ll be coming back to this book over and over (see what I did there?) and encourage you to check it out if you are a church leader!

***

I am almost done with one more book, but I didn’t get it finished before the end of April, so I’ll hang onto my thoughts on that one until next time.

Thursday, May 01, 2025

Dreams and Goals for May

 


                Welcome to a shiny new month, my friends! I am excited for May, because many exciting things sit inside the calendar squares, and I’m looking forward to enjoying each of them in due time. I've made some goals for those calendar squares, too, and here is my May 2025 list!


Plant flowers and our garden. I’ve already purchased my seed packets for the things I plant from seed, and this weekend we plan to go purchase the rest of the flowers and plants. I’m excited to plant them and bring some beautiful life and color to our little corner of the lake!

Move into my new office! I’m thrilled that our church construction project is nearing completion and the time has almost come to move into the new space. My desk arrived a couple of weeks ago, and it’s been hanging out in our garage, awaiting the green light for us to assemble it in the new space! I am so looking forward to seeing this little ministry cove come together to see if it looks anything like the vision that has been dancing in my head for the last six months!

Ponder (or more?) my education. I have some decisions in front of me about next education steps, and the time has come to ponder the right path. I have a conversation scheduled for this month, and I plan to spend a good amount of time in prayer over this whole matter. Depending on how the prayer and conversation go, perhaps I’ll take more steps, but at the very least…I’ll ponder.

Catch up the scrapbooks. April was a prolific picture-taking month. It was a terrible scrapbooking month. I would love for May to hold enough free time to catch up, but I confess I’m unsure if this dream will come true.



Finish well in the things that wrap up this month. This weekend I’ll finish teaching the elective class that I’ve been leading the last couple of months. I’ll also wrap up helping with GriefShare, and my spring (extracurricular) speaking calendar will be complete. I want to do well all the way through to the final day of each commitment and not just run out of steam, limping across the finish line.

                Those are my dreams and goals. How about you? Anything fun on the May horizon?