Sunday, December 03, 2017

The Shafferland Shuffle

Thank you all SO MUCH for the anniversary love this weekend. We had fun celebrating five years together, and of course we'll have much more on that to come! :)

* Last Sunday morning, I found our church all decorated for Christmas, complete with a sleigh in the foyer. So beautiful! (And no, I did not climb into it.) We had a wonderful day of rest that included much time under blankets on Mo, looking at Christmas lights! Sunday was also the day my laptop entered hospice care. We had to find an external mouse for it, because the mouse pad stopped working. I was begging it to hang on!!
* Monday I went to school to volunteer as a shopping helper for the Secret Santa shop. It was kind of fun! After that, I had a totally new experience that you'd never guess in a million years. I took a tour of the jail! (What? I know!) Ryan's brother works for the Sheriff's department and he offered to give me a tour. It was a very different and eye-opening experience, that's for sure! When I left there, I went to my Mom's therapy appointment...she did great!
* Tuesday morning was so stunning. It's easier to take the cold when it's at least pretty, right? I did a podcast interview that afternoon (buried beneath a blanket because of the aforementioned cold) and that night. Tuesday night, we decided to go out for dinner, because it had been a crazy couple of days and neither of us felt like cooking!
* Wednesday was so warm and wonderful that Ryan even got to rake leaves in the yard. (From our one tree which finally shed its leaves!) Can't believe it's this warm at the tail end of November! I felt bad about there not being any good dessert in the house, so I made protein balls. Oh! And while it's not really representative of the day, I also took a photo of this frozen yogurt which is the creamiest and loveliest I've ever found so far. I figured if I loved it enough to take a picture of it, it is collage worthy. LOL!
* Thursday morning I woke up to Braeya sleeping at my feet and the tree in the background. It was so picturesque! (Words I never say before coffee.) Another big thing that happened on Thursday? Our new Starbucks opened! Remember that tornado that came through Kokomo a year ago in the summer? It blew over the Starbucks and the gorgeous rebuilt building opened for business THIS WEEK!!!! It was also an exciting day, because I had extra time with Ryan for the start of our anniversary celebration. I'll have to tell you more about it next week!
* Friday was another lovely day spent together, and here's just a sampling of our day. Restful sleep, Ryan's sacrificial offering of making his head bigger than mine in a selfie, breakfast at IHOP, and realizing we'd forgotten our beloved chalkboards. It's just such a sad day when you have to make an extra stop at Hobby Lobby, isn't it?
* And yesterday - our fifth anniversary and a beautiful day together!! Impossible to condense into one small paragraph, so don't worry! I'll give you a million paragraphs soon! Meanwhile, allow me to say it was wonderful to have the day together with Ryan and to enjoy all our many beloved traditions. Watching our wedding video, drinking sparkling grape juice, eating cupcakes, and so much more. Happy fifth to us! :)





Saturday, December 02, 2017

The Saturday Six

One.

A couple of weeks ago, I told you abut Michelle Ule's new book, Mrs. Oswald Chambers. Though I am not typically a biography-reading girl, I loved this one and learned so much about faith and marriage from this strong and trusting woman who lived well before my time. This week I had the chance to talk with Michelle about what it was like to write about Biddy Chambers. Hope you have a chance to listen and learn a nugget or two about a fascinating lady!

Two.
 I read this post about the coffee rationing during the second World War, and I found it a bit hard to breathe! Very interesting, though! I knew some things were rationed during that time period, but I did not know coffee had been among them. Her last question is a good one! How would you do on one cup a day?

Three.


If you love peeking at houses,  you are going to drool over this post! I met Nicole just over a year ago at a retreat where I spoke. She is a treasure, and she's since started a blog that I enjoy reading. She just had her house-aversary (hey, we even talk alike!) and she shares really beautiful pictures of the hard work they've done on their little house! 

Four.


You. Guys. READ THIS!! I laughed until I cried! A couple of weeks ago, on the Saturday Six, I linked to Lisa Harper's video produced by the Today show, highlighting her story of adopting her daughter, Missy. GREAT video. If you missed it, Google it and watch it. It was so well done. But this behind-the-scenes glimpse into her one regret from that video had me in tears and giggles. READ!!! 

Five. 


Okay, I know I shared a link to this video in my blog yesterday, but this is my post, so I can do what I want, right? I just cannot let this Saturday Six go by without honoring the significance of this very day. It is our fifth wedding anniversary - a milestone I have waited to reach for several months now. I know to some of you, five is no big deal, because you're many "fives" past it. And I celebrate you for that!! But I prayed so many years for even a wedding day, so to be at the five year mark is a blessing I don't take for granted. So this link honors that day. Enjoy! And happy fifth anniversary, Ryan. I love you so much!! Thank you for saying yes to life with me!

Six.

This week, I read Tiffany Smiling's book Your Dream. God's Plan. I confess to you the book was nothing like I anticipated - in the best possible way. I chose it, because I feel like I live in a constant state of seeking to be smack in the middle of God's choice for me. Anytime I have the opportunity to learn from someone else who has similar passionate pursuits, I want to learn if I can. But I fully expected the book to be very how-to focused, and I steeled myself for a bit of preachiness.

I found none. And that's what I loved the most about this book. The author, Tiffany Smiling, had an unbelievable childhood and adolescence. She came through health battles that you and I could never even begin to imagine. Seizures, cancer, surgeries, a stroke...all before college. And yet God used that season of devastation to take hold of Tiffany's heart. Though she grew up in a more-than-comfortable home and family, she realized God had spared her life for more than mediocrity, and that pushed her to pursue God's plans over her own dreams.

The book chronicles Tiffany's story through her medical difficulties and into her quest to obey God, no matter what He asked. Better than a how-to, this book simply shows how-she-did and lets you draw your own conclusions on how these lessons could be applied in your own life.

Tiffany acknowledges (and even urges) that your journey will not look like hers. It's not supposed to. God called her to a very specific mission that won't match anything He asks of you or me. But in the details of her story, she teaches the importance of holding plans loosely, understanding that God's dreams are far better than our own, and comprehending that we can make a much bigger impact than we even realize.

I think if each of us adopted Tiffany's mindset and allowed ourselves to be used like she has, God could do amazing things through each of us.

This book challenged and convicted me. My own dreams look different in light of her words and my newfound understanding. Regardless of your dream, her story can encourage and motivate you! Thanks, Tiffany, for sharing your story in this book!



** Barbour sent me a copy of this book at no charge. All opinions are my own! **


 

Friday, December 01, 2017

Five Years Ago Tomorrow...

Tomorrow is Saturday (FYI) and therefore it is the home of the Saturday Six, so I'm popping in a day early with a very important blog post.

My dear people, tomorrow will mark five years since I became Rebekah Shaffer. (Insert about a million hearts right here.)

I am not even sure how to condense into one post all that I'm feeling as we head into tomorrow and that five year milestone. I've been ridiculously emotionally sentimental about the whole thing since about JUNE, so that basically means I've been a mess for the past six months. (This actually probably won't surprise any of you.)

I thought I would spend today looking back at our wedding day. Can you handle a trip down memory lane with me?

I tell people that I loved our wedding day and that it was perfect in every way. We had very little time to make decisions about our wedding day, but I felt like every choice we made ended up being perfect for us. I hear a lot of brides say they don't remember much of their wedding day; it was all a blur. Not for me. I remember every second, even without the aid of pictures. It was not stressful, it was beautiful, and it was sacred in lovely ways. So I'll show you some of those moments today.

We bucked tradition and decided to see each other before the wedding. We both needed that. We needed time alone together to read Scripture, pray, and be still before the Lord. We sat in the sand, beheld a stunning Florida sunrise, ate cookies, drank coffee, read our Bibles, wrote letters to each other, exchanged wedding gifts, and washed each others' feet. Perfection. 
Hair time! We parted ways after our sunrise meeting and I went to my hair appointment in the sole salon I could find open on Sunday in Siesta Key. They kept me filled up with coffee, and my matron of honor (Lynnette), my bridesmaid (Sara), and my sister (Lori) accompanied me to watch the transformation begin. These moments were beautiful. I was not the least bit stressed. I just enjoyed coffee and conversation, and I answered a million texts that came in from well-wishers.
Then it was gettin' ready time! My entourage joined me in the room Ryan and I would share during our honeymoon, and Ryan and his entourage got ready in one of our wedding party couples' rooms. They took good care of us! I had plenty of time, wasn't rushed, and felt great.
My first glimpse of myself was truly the first moment I felt like a real bride. I never had "that feeling" at the bridal salon when I picked out my dress or even after I had it altered and tried it on for keeps. But I'm glad. I wanted that moment on THIS day.
Ten million points to my niece/assistant photographer for capturing that.

We had our first look in the gazebo on the property of the resort where we stayed. We have a zillion pictures from multiple angles (we had a full paparazzi and I was never happier) but this moment is sealed in my mind even without pictures. Perfection again.


The next couple of hours were a whirlwind of taking pictures around the resort, greeting our families, and meeting our guests who began to arrive from all over the place!




And then it was time!





Our ceremony was unusual in a million ways, but it was perfectly us, and I wouldn't change a thing about it. It was sacred and lovely, and I still remember most of it by heart. The vows, the ring exchange, the charge to us as a couple, the charge to our guests, the letters we read to one another, the music that didn't play because the sound system failed... (There always has to be one hiccup, right?)

And just like that, we were married!
We had an amazing sunset photo shoot that was so Hollywood-esque. I'll never have anything like it again, so I savored it.




And then we capped off the day with our lovely little reception. It was simple, but I enjoyed every second.



A day I will always treasure. I am so grateful for Ryan, for his love which has only grown since this day, and for this life we share. We will spend tomorrow reliving the memories of our wedding day (as we always do on our anniversaries) but I spend every day grateful to be Ryan's bride.
I love you, Ryan!


Rebekah + Ryan from Visual Effects by Seth on Vimeo.

Thursday, November 30, 2017

What I Learned in November

And just like that, we're to the last month of the year! WHEW! :) November was the month in which I met myself coming and going, but I managed to squeeze in a wee bit of learning on the side! Here are my thoughts from the merry, merry month of November!


1. Painting classes should be kept on the small side.
I treated my friend to a canvas class for her birthday, and while we both had a blast at the thing, we decided 35 students to 1 teacher was not a great ratio. The class took almost three hours, which was no big deal for us, because we had no other plans, but some ladies were quite antsy by the end. And though the teacher did her very best to get to all of us, she struggled to get around to everyone quickly. We decided maybe the class should have been about half that size to be manageable.


2. I will never grow up.
Mom needed some jammie pants for her knee rehab, and I was nominated to go purchase them. So I did. And then I packed them in a Victoria's Secret bag and took them to the hospital. She said, "I hope they're not from Virginia's Secret." LOL!! The next day, when I went to the hospital, I  met her nurse, who said, "Oh! Nice to meet you! Are you the one with the Victoria's Secret bag?" Yes. Yes that would be me.

3. Celebrating grandparents is fun!

One of my grandparents died before I was born, and the other three all died in my junior high and high school years. One of the beautiful bonuses I received in marrying Ryan was a whole new group of grandparents. This month, Ryan's Grandpa turned 88 and his Grandma turned 90! (In full disclosure, these two are not married to each other; one is maternal and one is paternal. Let's not start rumors!) Both of them are just delightful and I don't think either one looks their age. It was a joy to celebrate both of them.

4. I am unashamed about my planning (overplanning?) nature.
This month happened as smoothly as it did ONLY because I had been planning ahead on some activities for months, some for weeks, and some for days. I take a lot of ribbing for my fat day planner and my color coded calendars, but let the record show, I made it to Mom's doctor appointments, several therapy sessions and more while juggling church meetings, Christmas prep, hosting Thanksgiving, writing, and podcasting because I'm strict in my planning. Sure, my blood pressure went up a little now and then, but overall was very calm, because I had a plan. 

5. Hosting Thanksgiving is not as hard as I feared!
I had hosted Thanksgiving before, back in my single days, but I believe I cooked about one thing and the rest of the family brought the rest of the food. In truth, I was merely a landing point. So when Ryan and I inherited Thanksgiving, rather at the last minute this year, I wasn't sure if I could successfully pull off a good feast! It helped that we didn't have many people, so I didn't have to cook tons and tons of food. But it wasn't as stressful as I thought. My sisters pitched in with sides and desserts, and we did it! Thanksgiving success!  

6. We're going to be a regular aunt and uncle (again) in addition to being a great aunt and uncle!  


Ryan's sister has made it social-media-official, so we can tell you that she announced this month she'll be having a baby next summer! (He has lots of siblings, so if you've lost track, this is the sister that got married this past summer.) So I guess 2018 will be the year of the babies in our family. My niece is having her first baby, and Ryan's sister is having her first baby! 

 So how about you? Did you learn anything?

Wednesday, November 29, 2017

Walk a Mile in My Shoes: Full Time R.V. Living

If you've read this blog recently, you know I/we have a not-so-secret dream of full-time R.V. life. Earlier this year, when we toured Elkhart County, we spent a decent amount of time at a dealership, figuring out what we liked and what we didn't. Who knows when and/or if God will ever open the door for us to transition into that lifestyle, but I do love to learn all I can in the meantime! You know...just in case.

I follow a handful of full-time R.V. folks on Instagram, but I actually have real-life friends who have done this for a year and a half now! They were kind enough to help me out with this week's Walk-A-Mile post. Hope you find it as fascinating as I do!

 The Eckart Family

Today I'm introducing you to the Eckart family. Fun fact: when I was little, Matt's family moved in next door to us. When you live in the country and only have one neighbor within walking distance, it's exciting to learn the new family has kids your age! Matt and I are just about the same age, but his younger sister and I spent a good number years playing at each others' homes. And they had a pool for a while, so that was fun, too.

They eventually moved, and Matt and I grew up and went our separate ways, but I connected with him again through the beauty of social media, and that's been fun! Matt's wife, Nadine, is a total sweetheart. I am pretty sure I want to be just like her when I grow up. They have five children (four girls and a boy) and a year and a half ago, Matt left the church he had pastored for years to take on a new role in traveling ministry. Nadine explains a bit more of the story below, but they made the decision to move into an R.V. and stay together as a family!

We run into them every now and then, when they're based in this area - like when we were both having pictures taken the same night at the same park. Yes, I saw that above photo shoot live and in person! (But I digress.) I just want to pause to commend them as a family. They do a great job of being a team together and representing Christ well! I appreciate them so much.

So Nadine was kind enough to share some of her thoughts on full time R.V. life. Here you go! Walk (or maybe in this case, drive) a mile in their shoes!



1. Living in an R.V. forces you to decide what is really important.

Matt and Nadine's family consists of seven people living in a 35 1/2 foot R.V. with three total closets for clothes, one shoe cabinet to share, and one drawer for each family member. Before they moved in, they figured out there was enough room for 15 hangers per person (which can each house one pair of pants and a shirt). That means they have to be very selective about their clothing. Nadine says it has been pretty wonderful, though, because she doesn't buy clothing as often. When she's out shopping, she asks herself if she loves the item more than what she has in her tiny closet at home. If the answer is no, she doesn't buy it. If the answer is yes, then something else from the closet has to go. As a result, she really loves the clothes in her closet!

Nadine says the same mentality applies to every item in their little home, actually. She doesn't have much in her tiny kitchen, but everything that is in there gets used almost daily (or at least weekly). She said they found it very freeing to go through every room, every closet, every cabinet of their old home and reevaluate each item to determine if they truly needed it. They got rid of about 80% of their possessions. Everything they kept had to fit in the R.V. or the 10x15 storage unit they have. She said surprisingly, she doesn't miss any of the stuff. She decided it wasn't that important after all.

(Side note: I remember seeing pictures of their house sale on Facebook. I can't call it a garage sale or a yard sale because the house itself was literally filled with all they let go of in order to take on this lifestyle. It was impressive!!)

2. At some point, they had to dive in without knowing how to live this lifestyle.

Nadine says sometimes you won't know how to do something until you just jump in and do it. You know: riding a bike, swimming, raising kids...amen? Experience becomes the teacher. She and Matt did research other families who lived on the road full time, but it wasn't until they dove in that they learned to how fill up and dump their tanks. (And by "they," she says she means "Matt.") They had to learn how to find reasonably-priced campgrounds in places they'd never visited before, how to logistically home-school five kids in an R.V. and more. (I might have to pick her brain on that part for another week's post. That intrigues me, too!)

Nadine said they've learned the most by just getting out there and living the life, and they've found themselves adapting to new challenges. It's been a great adventure for them!

3. They have everything they need inside the R.V. It is comfortable and homey for them.

Matt and Nadine always enjoyed camping, prior to this adventure, but she says for their family, this isn't camping. This is home. She also said their kids would get irritated if she slipped and called their motor home a camper. It is home. She says she knows it sounds absolutely crazy that seven people would be comfortable in that small of a space, but they are. She says even she is surprised by it sometimes!

They all have their own beds, a refrigerator, sink, stove, coffee percolator (now we're talkin'!!), T.V., shower, and toilet. Everything you need, right there at your fingertips. Nadine says even when they're visiting relatives, they would rather sleep in their own beds in their own little home on wheels.

4. Spontaneity is a big part of this life, but routines and traditions are also important.

(I loved what she had to say about this one, by the way!) Nadine says they still have Family Night every Friday. The kids look forward to getting a pizza, renting a movie or playing board games, and staying up late. Even on nights when they're at an amazing destination, the kids still want Family Night.

"Hey kids! We're at Niagara Falls!"

"Cool! Are we doing Family Night?"

(THAT is what I mean about this family doing something right!)

Nadine said Matt has also started a new tradition with their son on Mondays. They call it Manly Monday, and the two of them go out and do something together. Since Caleb has four sisters, Matt wanted to be sure he got some focused attention from his dad! Nadine said while they're gone, she and the girls try to do something girly, but really every day is a girl party, since they dominate 5-2.

5. You don't have to be independently wealthy to live in an R.V.


Obviously they can't speak for every full time traveler but for them, life in an R.V. just made sense. Nadine already home-schooled their kids, and she didn't want to stay home alone without Matt while he traveled. Likewise, Matt didn't want to leave his family behind and travel alone. So they made the decision to move into the R.V. and stay together.

Nadine says a miracle happened and has happened every single month since they left behind their steady, regular paycheck. The miracle is that all their bills get paid. For over a year and a half, they've been paid every single month. Before they made this transition, Matt received a promise from the Lord: Go where I tell you to go, say what I tell you to say, and I will provide.

They have, and God has! She admits sometimes it has been terrifying, but they have been able to go from church to church, survive on love offerings that are generously given toward the ministry, and Nadine says God has provided all of their needs according to His riches in glory!

So there you have it! A peek into full time RV life! Thanks, Nadine, for letting us see what your adventures are like! :)


(P.S. - if you want to know more about their  ministry, you can visit their website here!)

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