Monday, May 13, 2024

Holiday Happenings: Mother's Day

 


Happy Monday! Here we are, at the start of a shiny new week, and I have some stories for you about our day yesterday!

            As you know, my parents now live near us, and I happened to be speaking at a church yesterday, so we invited them to join us if they wanted to. They took us up on the offer and came along with us. Yesterday was my last day, for a while, anyway, with the church I’ve been speaking at once a month throughout the year. I can’t explain how much we have come to love the people there, and it was sad to say goodbye for the summer! Lots of hugs all around after the service ended. (And they gifted us the most GORGEOUS hanging planter. So thoughtful!)






            After church, we headed back to where my parents live, so we could eat lunch with them in the dining room! My sister and brother-in-law came as well, we had a great time eating together. (Great food, too, by the way.)

            Remember all those years we hosted Mommapalooza at our house? All those days of cooking ahead? This was new territory for us – just walking in and eating something someone else made!

            Julie brought me a gift, so at the end of lunch, after we gave Mom her Mother’s Day gift from all of us, I opened my first birthday gift of the year! She gave me this gorgeous solar lamp for our patio! It’s so pretty and will look gorgeous back there.



            After lunch, we headed to Mom and Dad’s apartment to spend some time together – and we did a few rounds of pictures while we were there.





            It turned out to be a pretty great Mother’s Day – and it was a bonus that it was so pretty outside!

Sunday, May 12, 2024

Sunday Sentiments: The Truth Is...

 

Today is Mother’s Day…a day that has gotten increasingly complicated in our world in recent years. The day that was meant to celebrate mothers has done so, but it’s also positioned a spotlight on those who resist such brightness glaring in their faces. The reminders of what was lost or hasn’t happened at all is a difficult reality for many, and that matters too. So for those of us who write or speak on a day like this one…it’s hard. No matter what you say or don’t say, you’re probably going to unintentionally exclude or offend someone. That’s not at all what I want for any of you.

            The truth is my mom is here with me – and we are closer geographically than we’ve been in years. I do celebrate that! Happy Mother’s Day, Mom! I am excited for you that you are in this new chapter of life, getting to enjoy new-to-you things, and resting in ways you’ve not been able to for a long time.

            The truth is Ryan’s mom is not here with us – and we do miss her. It’s been five years since she passed away, and we miss her. We are so thankful for all the good memories we have of the time we had with her – and we are profoundly thankful for all the pictures that keep her smiling face in front of us every day.

            The truth is we have also been shaped by others besides our mothers: sisters, aunts, grandmothers, friends…women who have been pivotal pieces of our lives and hearts. They have prayed for us, taught us, listened to us, given solid advice, and stepped in to encourage us. Some are here with us, some are gone, but all have left impressions we cannot forget, nor do we want to.

            The truth is I’m not a mom, and for some years of my life, that has been a hard reality. The Lord has given me the ability to live peacefully with the story He has written for me – and He has given me so many bonus kids over the years – nieces, nephews, bonus nieces and nephews, friends’ kids, a godson. All these kiddos have allowed me to feel a measure of motherhood in some way or another, and that has been a gift.

            The truth is I’m a cat and dog mom, and they matter to me deeply. I know many people don’t understand why some pet parents truly feel like parents and why the pets truly feel like children, but ours do to us. I love my sweet babies with my whole heart.


            So here we are on this complicated day. We celebrate, we remember, we trust the God of our stories. We are grateful for every single woman who has poured into our lives and helped make us who we are!

Saturday, May 11, 2024

Saturday Suggestions: Inspirations for Your Weekend

 


Good morning and happy Saturday to you, my friends! I hope you are enjoying a BEAUTIFUL day today. We sure are looking forward to ours! Much to do today. While I’m working away on projects, here are some fun things for you!

ONE. 

Everyone around the lake has been planting flowers and summer-fying their properties. Looks SO NICE. (We have some really talented flower gardeners on this lake, and I love looking at their work.) This post has some great ideas for making your house summer-ready inside and out. Her admonition to clean the front porch is one I need to take seriously. It’s not cluttered, but we’ve had a lot of dirt and dust pile up out there over the winter. It needs a good power wash and scrub! And some of the summer recipes in this same post look pretty tasty, too! (I’m lookin’ at you, mini cherry pie!)

TWO. 

What is your dessert specialty? My mom’s has always been pie and candy. My friend Amber is the scotcharoo queen. My friend Abagail does the most amazing cakes and pretty sugar cookies. (I’m realizing the gift of having friends who specialize in varied desserts…) Mine? Cookies. Not pretty cookies. But cookies. I have always loved making them, and I have always had a lot of fun with it. So when this came to my inbox, I decided to save it. Tons of ideas for great cookies right inside here. The coffee shortbread has my attention. (Lois, I still remember your DELICIOUS shortbread you gifted your staff every Christmas! I miss it!) I also drooled over the s’more sandwich cookies.

THREE. 

Tomorrow is Mother’s Day, which can be a really wonderful day for some and a really hard day for others. Dayspring has several articles that speaks to the good and hard of this day. Empty nester? Read this. Single mom? This one is for you! BONUS: If you forgot to buy a Mother’s Day card, Barbara Rainey has some downloadable options in her Etsy store – including one for a mother-in-law!

FOUR. 

I shared earlier this week about my routines for meal planning and making grocery lists. If you pack lunches and need some ideas for healthy, on-the-go options, this post has some great (and easy!) suggestions. Though I love cooking and enjoy doing so for all meals, there’s nothing wrong with quick, easy meals that don’t require cooking!

FIVE.

Looking for a new Bible study for the summer? There are a couple of brand new ones coming out from women I’ve enjoyed reading in the past, so I wanted to point you in their directions! The first is Encounters with the Living God by Shannon Leibold. It explores the lives of six women in Scripture who encountered God and were changed as a result. The second is releasing in the next few days and is about Jacob. Darlene Schacht wrote this one. (She also does YouTube Bible studies over her books and is planning to start one on this book in June!) I’ve never been disappointed by anything I’ve read from either of these ladies, so I encourage you to check them out!

SIX. 

And finally, in the land of most random information, here’s a post about things you can do with your leftover strawberry tops/stems after you cut them off the main berry. Can you believe everything you read on the internet? I haven’t had time to deep dive into this one, so I can’t say for sure, but I did find it intriguing!

Here are this week's capsule finds. We've had quite the array of temperatures! :) 

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Friday, May 10, 2024

Flashback Friday: Writing Your Story One Week at a Time

 


Happy Friday, friends! Hope you’ve had a good week and have stayed safe. I’ve heard some crazy weather stories from all around the country this week! (And you remember that we scurried home in a storm whilst I was buried in groceries, right?) As you know, here on Fridays, we look back over earlier parts of life and look for creative ways to preserve our stories for future generations.

            Today we’re going to explore this question: What was the best part of your twenties?

            I’m sure we all have decades we didn’t love. And while my twenties were certainly not all bad, they were challenging in their own way. Even so, think about things like this as you circle back to the original question: What lessons did you learn that shaped you? What were the highlights of the decade? What life-shaping decisions did you make? What are you glad to not repeat? Remember: God wastes nothing!

            For me, here were some of the best parts of my twenties:

            I graduated from college. College was a significant journey for me – academically and in maturity. To complete that adventure successfully – and with honors – was an accomplishment I remain proud of to this day.

            I witnessed four babies coming into this world. A definite highlight to this decade. We are not going to talk about how two of those babies are twenty-somethings now and the third is graduating from high school. Nope. But those opportunities were true gifts.




 
            I got my start in church ministry and found I loved it. I started leading women’s Bible studies and women’s ministry at my local church, and I found how much I loved that sort of work. I am grateful for the church of my twenties and how well they invested in me and uncovered gifts in my heart.

            I moved out on my own for the first time and bought my first home. Both were stretches outside my comfort zone, and I am so proud of myself for being brave.

            I got a job that shaped me. It wasn’t my dream job. But it provided me with stability and growth. I had income, benefits, and a host of friendships that remain to this day.

(To be fair, this last picture is from my 30s, but the two show the bookends of that job.)

            I learned to cook and was pretty terrible at it in the beginning. Brownies that became burnies, undercooked chicken thighs, hard baked potatoes, cement brittle…I had some real adventures in the kitchen. But I slowly began to learn!

            I fell in love with scrapbooking. I did the traditional books back then, but goodness, the love of this has stayed with me all these many years. So grateful I found it and had such fun with it.

            I sold rubber stamps. Maybe that’s news to some of you! I was a Stampin’ Up! distributor for several years. It was so out of my comfort zone, but I made new friends with it and fed my own stamping and scrapping habits with the money I earned!

            You know, maybe my twenties were even better than I remembered. I’m glad I did this little exercise today!


Thursday, May 09, 2024

Routinely Speaking: Meal Plans & Grocery Lists

 


            I’ve been having fun each month sharing with you some of my routines and how I go about them. We’ve talked skin care, makeup, laundry, setting up a planner, and today we’ll talk about meal plans and grocery lists!

            My meal planning habits have gone through several seasons, so today I’ll share with you the way I do it currently! Who knows…in a year or so, it might look different yet!

            If you’ve been reading here for a long time, you probably know that I’ve been a fan of the Dashing Dish website for almost a decade, and I’m still a fan! But I’ve also started using some other websites to help me make my plans, and my ultimate goal is to create a master year-long meal plan that I can just recycle year after year. (That might take a while.)

            I’m also in the middle of creating a physical recipe book for us that includes hard copy versions of the recipes we love and use the most – tweaked to our own liking. So today I’m going to show you little pieces and parts of each of these aspects of my meal planning.

Part One: The Meal Plan

            We don’t always grocery shop on the same day each week, so the day I meal plan also varies. I try to choose a day when I have a free block of time (hour or two) to sit and plan. I open a blank computer document and make a list that looks like this:

Thursday, May 09, 2024
Breakfast:
Snack:
Lunch:
Snack:
Dinner:
Snack:

Friday, May 10, 2024
Breakfast:
Snack:
Lunch:
Snack:
Dinner:
Snack:

            I carry that pattern out for however many days I’m planning until I think we’ll have time to shop again. It usually amounts to roughly a week, but sometimes it goes a little longer. And yes, I do plan six full eating events every day. If you’ve been reading here a long time, you also know that I’ve taken several journeys of learning to have a healthy relationship with food – and on my most recent adventure, I learned the importance of eating six times a day – roughly every 2-3 hours. I also learned the importance of eating some protein each of those times.

            The first thing I do is go through and fill in any meals I know we are eating out or at an event. If we are eating at an event where I need to contribute a dish, I’ll put a note on that line that I need to think of something to take, and then I come back to that later.

            Next, I open up the SkinnyTaste website and use the free meal plans provided there each week. These. Are. Pure. Gold. You can see her whole archive of FREE weekly meal plans here. She’s been doing it for years. Isn’t this amazing? I love several things about her meal plans. She offers a plan that gives you three meals a day, seven days a week, minus one meal. She always builds in one eat-out meal per week. For the most part, I really like what she creates. And her offerings are healthy. Most calorie counts per day are on the lower end, so you have room to build in snacks and still stay in a good calorie boundary per day. (While I realize not everyone counts calories, it’s generally accepted that there’s value in staying in a good, healthy boundary.)

            So I read over the meal plan for the week I’m in, read the recipes, and decide which ones I want to implement and which ones I do not. I use probably 80% of her recipes to build my plan for the week. I also try to be willing to try at least one new thing each week. This week it’s chia pudding. In all transparency, it’s not my favorite, but I also don’t hate it, and I’m proud of myself for trying it.

            When I choose the meals I want to use, I plug in the name of the recipe next to the meal where I plan to make it. Then I add the link to the recipe so when it’s time to cook, I can go right back to it. It looks like this:

Thursday, May 09, 2024
Breakfast:
Tropical Chia Pudding Breakfast Bowl

            If there are meals I don’t care for from that list, I move over to Dashing Dish and peruse her meal plans to see if I can find something I like better. The Dashing Dish plans are not as robust as the SkinnyTaste ones. She doesn’t plan every single meal or the weekends.

            I build in my snacks from these two sites too, even though they don’t include them in meal plans. I try to organize my meals in such a way that I have heavy prep meals on days when I have the time to do the prep and the slow-cooker or easy meals on the busy days.


Part Two: The Grocery List

            As I choose my meal plans, I also make a separate list below my meal plans in my document, and that’s where I make my shopping list. I write down anything I need to buy to make those meals, and when I’m all done, I check the cabinets/refrigerator/freezer/pantry to see if I truly need to buy it. While we don’t have room to stock a ton of extra food, I try to keep some things on hand, so sometimes I can whittle down the list from what I have in surplus.

            When I’m done with this process, I consult the little list I keep in my desk drawer to fill in things we’ve run out of since the last shopping trip. (Cat and dog food, Ryan’s oatmeal packets, pretzels and chips for Ryan, etc.)

            Another note: I do organize our grocery list according to theme, so all the produce is in one spot, for example. This (theoretically) helps with backtracking when we get to the store.

            I keep my document up on my computer throughout the week and click on the links to the recipes when I am ready to cook!


Part Three: Building a Recipe File

            One last thing: I told you I’m working on building a recipe file in hard copy format. Here is an example of one of the pages. I make these in Canva and use photos I take of the food I make so it looks pretty! I’m a little behind on this, but I hope to use the summer to catch up. Ideally I would like to use Sunday afternoons to make the pages of the keeper recipes from the preceding week. I’ll get there.


            That’s how we meal plan in Shafferland! It helps keep us accountable to eat balanced meals, use the ingredients we buy, and not default to eating fast food!

Wednesday, May 08, 2024

Messy Kitchen Gratitude

 


We “ran out” of groceries yesterday. I put it in quotes because in the grand scheme of running out – we really didn’t. But in the grand scheme of trying to stay focused on balanced nutrition every day, we ran out of some (most?) of the necessities. Dinner the last couple of nights has been heavily cobbled together because we just didn’t have the right things to make anything purposeful.

            So last night, we headed to the grocery store. Ryan would have preferred to delay until tonight, but we already had Boot Camp taking us out for a while, so it made sense to me to do all the errand-running at once and then enjoy at full night at home tonight. (Plus, I wanted a non-cobbled meal.)

            Of course I would pick the night with tornado warnings to grocery shop. Ever been in a Walmart when every single phone in the place blares a storm warning?

            It’s fun.

            Ever tried to carry a week’s worth of groceries in a barely-two-seater truck that is also carrying two people?

            It’s fun.


            We had taken our insulated bags along to neatly pack everything in, but then the sirens went off and we just needed to get OUT. So as we drove (as though in labor) toward home, I was busy trying to repack everything into the aforementioned insulated bags from the confines of being buried beneath said groceries.

            It was fun. Actually, it felt like my greatest accomplishment all day.

            We bolted into the house, put away all the groceries, had dinner, rested for a bit, and then it was time to do all the kitchen work.

            I cleaned the produce: tomatoes and apples, strawberries and blueberries. I made the main dish of our lunch for tomorrow. I put together a new-to-me breakfast recipe that I’ll eat over the next couple of days.


            Together, Ryan and I made a batch of sandwich bread.

            And then Ryan washed all the dishes, because he’s amazing that way.

            We enjoy being in the kitchen together, telling stories while we work. I appreciate the opportunity to have healthy food in the house, even if it requires a little extra work to prepare it. And I certainly appreciate a husband who washes dishes.

            When I was first out of college, I lived on baked potatoes and boxed pasta salads. It wasn’t healthy, but neither was my paycheck, so I had to exist on what I could afford to buy. Every time I’m able to purchase food that I know is better for me (for us), I find my heart full of gratitude.

            Every time I get to cook with and for my husband, I am grateful, because I cooked for one for many years and prayed for someone to join me in the kitchen and at the table.

            And every time we have a kitchen counter full of drying dishes, I’m grateful for a nice kitchen in which to prepare the meals.


            It really IS fun.

            My heart and fridge are full today.